1. Comment by Jeffrey H. (flibber)— October 14,2008 @ 3:38AM
Ratings:-2+8
ATMs are a solution without a problem. If people carried cash they would be unnecessary. So would credit cards and piddling checks. Did it ever occur that before ATMs people not only survived, but were in the habit of paying cash and not getting into the debt traps caused by credit cards.
3. Comment by Bill S. (BillS)— October 14,2008 @ 6:08AM
Ratings:-2+8
We also don't know the history here. Maybe this was a routine occurance and he was getting tired of it? The biggest failing of advice columnists is that they are offering advice without knowing the whole story or the true story.
4. Comment by Shells L. (shellslyn)— October 14,2008 @ 6:14AM
Ratings:-1+9
#3, I agree. It doesn't mention what type of disorganization "spills over" into his life nor how often. Sounds to me like she needs to get her life together before he organizes his life right out of it.
5. Comment by Anne A. (nordie4)— October 14,2008 @ 8:56AM
Ratings:-0+8
My concern is with the second question, specifically, "She wants kids, he doesn't; she hates his kids from his previous marriage and wants him to disassociate from them." If there was ever a reason to not marry someone, this is it! My ex married a woman who expected him to forget about our kids. She was abusive to them and he sat back and let it all happen saying, "What can I do?" They ended up divorced and the kids were affected, especially their relationship with their Dad. Don't marry someone who doesn't accept and love your kids!
8. Comment by Brian I. (2056)— October 27,2008 @ 12:59PM
Ratings:-0+1
this should be a clue for him to realize he might not want to be with her if she can't handle her finances. Money isn't the most important thing in a relationship but I can guarantee you it has a lot of pull in it.
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Carolyn Hax: Beau wouldn't lend her $30
Adapted from a recent online discussion.ATMs are a solution without a problem. If people carried cash they would be unnecessary. So would credit cards and piddling checks. Did it ever occur that before ATMs people not only survived, but were in the habit of paying cash and not getting into the debt traps caused by credit cards.
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My atm only gives out $20's, so maybe he actually knew his math.
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We also don't know the history here. Maybe this was a routine occurance and he was getting tired of it? The biggest failing of advice columnists is that they are offering advice without knowing the whole story or the true story.
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#3, I agree. It doesn't mention what type of disorganization "spills over" into his life nor how often. Sounds to me like she needs to get her life together before he organizes his life right out of it.
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My concern is with the second question, specifically, "She wants kids, he doesn't; she hates his kids from his previous marriage and wants him to disassociate from them." If there was ever a reason to not marry someone, this is it! My ex married a woman who expected him to forget about our kids. She was abusive to them and he sat back and let it all happen saying, "What can I do?" They ended up divorced and the kids were affected, especially their relationship with their Dad. Don't marry someone who doesn't accept and love your kids!
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Amen Anne!
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Its only 11 oclock. How did number 6 post at 3:03 P.M.?
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this should be a clue for him to realize he might not want to be with her if she can't handle her finances. Money isn't the most important thing in a relationship but I can guarantee you it has a lot of pull in it.
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